Think like a man dating advice
Over the years, she's grown tired of coming in second.Steve says the first mistake women like Jill make is thinking they can change their men. It's all about the "three P's." Oprah.com: Can a list help you find love? "A man has got to see where he fits into the providing and protecting role. ' "You've got to make a space for him to fit in so he can come in and do what men do." Steve doesn't advise women to downplay their success or pack up their designer shoes. There are millions of smart, beautiful women around the world who can't figure out why they're unlucky in love, including a group of friends from New York. Steve says many successful women dated good men but didn't know it at the time. Even if you look like a million bucks -- and you have a few million in the bank -- Steve says a woman needs to know how a man shows his love. All you've got to do is stay patient." Why do many successful, independent women have a hard time finding love?Before Jill married her husband of 13 years, she says she knew he was a mama's boy."Are you willing to be the same thing to him that you're talking about on that list? "A lot of women are not." In general, do women even need a list? If you're married to a mama's boy, is there anything a wife can do to become the number one woman in his life? "You know how many times I hear women say: 'I don't need a man. If you're projecting it, where does a man fit in there? We're stupid." If you're hoping for a courtesy call, Steve says you can forget about that too. Listen, it's not in our DNA as great communicators anyway," he says. If you don't think it's important to your man, Steve says you're wrong. "It's one of the three things that a man has to have. [If] anyone of those three things is missing in the relationship, he's going to go get it somewhere else." If a man is cheating or has the intention to cheat, why pursue commitment with one woman? Let the baggage go." Sadly, many women have dated men who cheat..most of them don't even know it.
"You can't let your independence and your ability to take care of yourself be the dominant factor of who you are," he says. ' Just like you're saying it, you're projecting it. Sex, or "the cookie" as Steve calls it in his book, is a major point of contention for many couples. If you've got everything, you can do everything, you've got your own car ... Instead, he says strong women have to walk a thin line. Move on with your life." How important is sex in a relationship? Many women have long lists that describe what they're looking for in a man..are their standards simply too high? Just relax." Oprah.com: How to act like a lady, think like a man After a few dates, some guys just stop returning calls and texts. Michele found out her boyfriend of many years was cheating after he told her he was ready to settle down and get married. Steve says there are a few major reasons why men stray, though none of them excuse the behavior.Lynell says she's looking for a God-fearing, spontaneous African-American millionaire with straight teeth and nice shoes who wants children...among other things. "I'll be trying to meet him the same time you do." If a woman is serious about her list, Steve says she should ask herself one question before turning down a date. "Without standards, you settle for stuff." Before you get discouraged, Steve reminds women to stay patient and remember that real men aren't afraid of standards and requirements. • There's always a woman out there willing to cheat with him. Comedian Steve Harvey, the best-selling author of "Act Like a Lady, Think Like Man" and a self-professed expert on manhood, is here to take you inside the male mind. They're here to ask Steve if they'll ever find a man who meets all their requirements. You've got to know what you're looking for," he says. "A man having sex outside of his relationship is very different from [a woman]," he says. • What's happening at home isn't "happening" like it used to.