A girls guide to dating a geek book
But could actually offer some major steps in changing those troubling perspectives.(Full disclosure: Eric Smith is the Social Media & Marketing Manager at Quirk Books, where I also blog from time to time) Trust me when I say with absolutely no pride whatsoever that sad-and-lonely-and-completely-unaware-that-girls-might-actually-be-interested-in-him-19-year-old-Thom read a few similar “How To Pick Up Chicks” books in his time (Worldy-And-Much-More-Mature-28-Year-Old-Thom still asserts that from other “Dating” books—aside from the adorable 8-bit renderings that illustrate its pages, or the wonderful way in which it’s structured like a video game guide, or the hilarious and idiosyncratic allusions to everything from classic is that Smith at no point claims to know what women want or how they think, nor does he offer any suggestions for little tricks that “all” women go for.This is why I genuinely think this book is so important for right now.The information contained within the book is nothing new or revolutionary, but it’s presented in a way that is clear and enjoyable—and more importantly, in a way that can actually break through.What I mean is that the realms of science fiction and fantasy have a philosophical history of humanism, of treating people justly and right, and of individuals rising up to challenge the perceived injustices of their kingdom/galaxy/whatever.And that right now, our often insular and esoteric culture of geekdom is so frequently plagued by cosplay creeps, disrespect, and bigotry.Instead, Smith presents a guide for putting your best geek forward, conveyed in a way that any self-proclaimed or incidental geek can understand.
There are plenty of criticisms that can be justly leveraged against dating / self-help books as a genre.
And yet, people continue write them, because people continue to buy them, because people are always looking for that has ever figured out—except, of course, for this author of the book, who purports to believe that his/her generic-at-best or sociopathically-manipulative-at-worst book is, in fact, that end-all-be-all answer that everyone has been looking, and that only s/he is brilliant enough to have discovered.
Because unfortunately, there are still people who think it’s acceptable to make lewd comments to women at conventions, amongst the many other problems that plague the supposedly safe space of geek culture.
And most attempts at addressing these kinds of situations only succeed in alienating the perpetrators—which is certainly better than allowing that behavior to continue unchecked, but doesn’t do much to change that person’s views.
So I guess what I’m trying to say is that, by comparison, by Eric Smith is the worst dating/self-help book ever written because it is so genuinely delightful without being at all presumptuous.
In fact, it’s so spot-on and utterly enjoyable that I think it should be up there with Please don’t take that to mean that I think this book is brilliant, revolutionary, and/or mindblowing-ly imaginative. And of course it’s non-fiction, which already makes it a strange and unfair comparison to those aforementioned tomes.